This is a subject close to my heart, for obvious reasons. So when freelance writer and blogger Nicki Cawood (Curly and Candid) offered to guest-blog an open letter to her partner Roy it was too good an opportunity to miss. She writes…
As Mum I do the art & craft, bakes, reads stories, take the kids out and about, play Lego… what does their Dad do?
By the time you read this it will have already been published so it’ll be too late to wince at my soppiness! You see, I don’t think I tell you often enough how fab a Dad you are to the boys. I knew you would be, but seeing your eyes light up when you see them and their faces break into beaming smiles when you walk in the door just makes my heart sing!
We always knew we’d have children – we assumed we’d have them straight away but then we found out I had fertility problems. I felt so guilty – you were born to be a Dad, I could just tell from the first moment you’d be a great one and then we were told it may never happen! When we finally managed to fall pregnant that first time it was as if a light switched on inside you. When we lost the baby I was crushed. So many lovely people consoled me but they seemed to forget it wasn’t just me who was hurting, but you too. You were so brave and supportive but I know how much it cut you. I hope I never have to see you suffer like that again. An awful time but we knew we’d get there and that we’d be Mum & Dad some day.
When Kieran was born I fell in love with you all over again! A hands on Dad from the very beginning, you’ve never shied away from dirty nappies or snotty noses and no-one makes story-time as fun as you! You give prize winning horsey-rides, can sing the silliest songs imaginable, do a better Spongebob Squarepants impression than most and know the Gruffalo off by heart.
When you get in from work, clearly shattered some days, the first thing you do is kiss me and cuddle the boys, asking Kieran what he’s done and if he enjoyed it and cuddling Taylor and making him giggle.
Ok, you aren’t a saint and you need to learn to share the Lego properly and realise that making sandcastles does not mean giving Kieran an allotted area to build his “heap” so he doesn’t ruin your feat of sand engineering which includes a working moat… but all in all you do a grand job!
Seriously though, never underestimate how good a Dad you are – they don’t and neither do I!
Love, Nicki x
PS, I appreciate how fun playing SuperDad is but next time you run round the living room with your pants on the outside of your jeans….. close the curtains dear.